I get asked all the time for a few words of advice for someone’s big day and would I have changed anything about my own wedding.
Well the honest answer is I wouldn’t have changed a thing! Not to sound cliché but I loved my wedding and I would do it all again, however I do have one regret!
So here are my pearly gems…
One it’s your wedding, do it your way! If you don’t want a colour scheme don’t have one. If you want a simple dress have one. If you want to break with tradition and have a stone baked pizza van instead of a wedding breakfast do it! Hopefully this is the only time you are ever going to get married so do it your way, as long as your wedding shouts personality and reflects the couple you are then who cares what people think, your day will be beautiful.
Secondly take a time out. Everyone will tell you this but your day does honestly fly past at a trillion miles an hour! It is very easy to get wrapped up in the moment, talking to guests, posing for photos. It can actually happen that you spend less time with you husband than any normal day. So take a 5 minute time out with your new hubby, take yourself away from the bustle and have a little chat and listen. Spend a few moments absorbing the laughter and sounds of everyone having a great time, appreciate what you have achieved and the actual reason that you got married and that’s because you love each other.
So here is my one regret and the only amendment I would make to my day… a videographer, or at least someone to record the speeches. If I am honest we forgot about it, we were too concerned with the other small details and it never crossed our mind to ask a guest to do the honours, we just presumed someone would. But unfortunately no one did. I always thought I would remember the speeches, sadly I don’t. I was so involved in the moment, concentrating so much on what everyone was saying that now it is such a blur. I don’t remember our guests laughing or crying and in the few snippets of video I have seen the guests were in absolute hysterics, all of which I never appreciated. We were lucky that our photographer created a small 10minute snippet of our day, but I wish I had more. I wish I could see peoples reactions as I entered the church, hear the laughter during our best mans jokes and seeing the proud faces of our parents during our first dance. So even if you can’t afford a videographer ask a guest to record what they can, you will have memories but nothing can beat seeing it all again.
But most importantly of all enjoy it! Don’t get stressed with the details of the day, it’s going to be awesome no matter what happens, your only going to do it once so sit back and enjoy the ride!
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